23 Signs You’re A Feminist Groom

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Image: Getty

For a wedding to be about equality, it’s not enough to just be a feminist bride. Your fiancé needs to be on board too! (Equality is harder to achieve if it’s one-sided.) So for those grooms out there wondering how they can help truly be their partner’s equal in life and down the aisle, here are 23 signs of a feminist groom.

(Disclosure note: It’s unclear if self-proclaimed feminist, Canadian Prime Minister Justin Trudeau is a feminist groom, we can only hope…and dream)

  1. You don’t assume you’re the only one who can propose (in fact you hint that you might like to be proposed to too!)
  2. You and your fiancé split the cost of the engagement rings and wedding bands.
  3. You wear an engagement ring too.
  4. You get your parents permission too.
  5. You expect your parents to pay as much as the bride’s.

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    Image: Pinterest

  6. You insist on splitting all the wedding planning duties.
  7. You don’t ask plan only the “manly” elements of a wedding.
  8. Planning the honeymoon is also a shared responsibility.
  9. You expect to be part of the wedding shower too because it benefits both of you.
  10. You invite your guy friends and relatives to the shower too cuz you know it’s not just women’s job to give and receive kitchenware.
  11. If you have a groom’s cake, you expect the wedding cake to represent her interests as well, not be just some blank, white cake.
  12. You think it’s bad luck if your fiancé sees you on the wedding day.
  13. Your parents walk you down the aisle.
  14. You also want Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg to be your officiant.
  15. You would never include the phrase “vow to obey” or “man and wife” in your vows.
  16. You’re not afraid to cry.
  17. You toss out the garter toss.
  18. You are as comfortable having a father-son dance, as you are a mother-son dance.
  19. You understand that a bachelorette party is just as entitled to do the same activities as a bachelor party so long as both don’t objectify the opposite sex.
  20. You are open-minded when she asks you to take her surname.
  21. You don’t encourage her to become a Mrs. (or find a new title that indicates your married status too).
  22. You get carried over the threshold too.
  23. You show no hesitation to stand up to those who push obsolete, sexist wedding traditions on you and your fiancé.

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