Most of us learn about wedding culture from our parents, peers, religion, businesses, media and pop culture. It’s very easy to feel like experts on the subjects since we’re inundated with lessons of how to buy the perfect wedding dress, get him to propose, what to say during the wedding ceremony, how to pick out a flawless diamond ring and how women can easily change their last name to his. When it comes to weddings and marriage, people have always been told what, when, where, how, but few ever think for themselves – ‘why?’
The Feminist Bride aims to shed light on wedding traditions that discriminate against people as it relates to gender, sexuality, economics, reproductive freedoms and acceptance. Most people either don’t want to talk about these wedding issues or simply don’t know of them. After all, it’s hard to believe such a celebratory moment could be filled with heated and unresolved issues, but it’s true. Waking up to the idea that the white wedding is less than pristine is a powerful notion, which is why The Feminist Bride’s motto is, “…because the perfect wedding includes perfect equality.” Luckily, we sometimes come across others who think similarly and create powerful pieces of art that wake other people up to these ideas.
A poetry slam trio including high schoolers, Belissa Escobedo, Rhiannon McGavin, and Zariya Allen from a non-profit called Get Lit boldly performs a poem called ‘Somewhere in America.’ It reveals that what we learn in our everyday setting – from school to home to history books, does not always tell the full story of reality. Their slam is a powerful wake up call to open our eyes and be more aware of how the world really works. If you’re looking to be inspired, more informed and motivated to make a difference, check out their slam dunk performance on The Queen Latifah show.